After I saw the movie Think Like A Man based on the book by Steve Harvey Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man, it brought back memories of my dating journey. I decided to write on the topic because my dating journey can be summed up as Act Like A Lady, Think Like The Father.
God’s ways are marvelous and when we act like the ladies He created us to be and think like Him, our Father in Heaven, there is no telling how the Ultimate Author will write our love story. I just want to take this opportunity to encourage single women to stay focused on Him and to know that with God on their side, their love stories will surely be written.
Over ten years ago, I kissed dating goodbye because I was tired. I was tired of all the games. I was tired because I lost my identity in the process of finding Mr. Right. I was tired because I knew that many times I settled for less than I deserved. In that period of my life, I came across a book that opened my eyes and changed my view about dating.
The book was titled When God Writes Your Love Story by Eric and Leslie Ludy. I also read When Dreams Come True by the same authors. These books made me realize that as much as I thought I trusted God, I only trusted Him with certain areas of my life and not all of them. While reading the books, it dawned on me that God of the universe was capable of writing a beautiful love story for me. The question I had for Him was simply if He had any clue what I wanted in my future mate?
The more I thought about it, I concluded that so far I hadn’t made any wise choices myself so I had nothing to lose in the matter. However, I made sure I was very specific when I started thinking of my ideal future husband. I wrote down everything I could think of in terms of characteristics. I was very detailed. You see, I am a petite woman and I knew that I wanted someone that was definitely not shorter than I was. I was also beginning to understand how much debt was a bondage so I asked for a money wise man who along with me will be good stewards of God’s money. Another example is that I am very talkative by nature and so I asked God for a great listener.
The list I had written down helped me to not only know who I wanted in a mate but also who I needed to become in order to be an asset to my future husband. Also a wise woman once told me that one important criterion to add to the list and in my prayer was to ask God for a man whose purpose and destiny in life complement mine. I have held on to that advice and am passing that on to you ladies. I write that because my husband and I have a heart for strengthening marriages and families in a practical and godly way so many of our decisions reflect that passion and purpose.
After I wrote my list, I waited on God while enjoying being single. I have heard it’s when you are enjoying your single life that God brings along your future mate. That’s just what happened to me. God orchestrated everything so beautifully that I am still in awe at His ways. I truly can say in my case God wrote a beautiful love story and dreams indeed came true.
Remember the list I mentioned above. When I met my husband, I went over the list and he was everything on the list and much more. See, I serve a God of more than. God didn’t give me just what I asked (that would have been enough for me) but He gave more than I asked or thought of and in a very beautiful package. When I made the commitment to stay single, I stuck to it and I am so glad I did.
God didn’t let me down. I am writing all this to encourage single ladies that if you want your beautiful story written, not to be discouraged by the state of things. Stay true to your values and beliefs, act like a lady while thinking like your Father in Heaven and know that dreams do come true with God as the Ultimate Author of all love stories.