God’s Design For WELLthy Parenting requires us parents to humble ourselves and ask God for wisdom daily in order to train our children in the way they should go because wealth of knowledge in parenting does not equal understanding and wisdom in parenting. When I heard about the book Grace-Based Parenting on Focus On The Family podcast, I knew I had to read it because the episode made me assess my parenting style to be and do better.
God’s Design For WELLthy Parenting requires that applying God’s wisdom takes a willing parent. My parenting style definitely changed from a dictating parent to a Grace-based parenting who is learning everyday to parent in God’s love, grace and truth. It’s not the least bit easy but that’s the reason why we need God at the center of it all and in my case, thankful for a husband who understands that my heart is in the right place.
One gorgeous Saturday morning, our family went for our usual outdoor walk or run and ss we spent time ahead of Hubby and the two young ones, we had a discussion about her struggle with staying organized and focused on school work. The old dictating parent in me would have gone off on her and let her have a piece of my mind.
God’s Design For WELLthy Parenting convicts us into action so seeing a God opportunity to apply the lessons I learned from the book Grace-based Parenting, I started asking questions to hear her heart and realize how overwhelming 5th Grade has been for her so I decided to take her out for some girls time. We headed to one of our favorite spots, Panera Bread, for some heart to heart talk and it was exactly what she needed.
A rescuing parent leans heavily on love, but shies away from truth. A dictating parent leans heavily on truth, but mixes in little love. A grace-based parent is able to express his love for the child no matter what they say or do, yet is strong enough to deliver appropriate consequences and to allow his child to struggle so that real learning takes place. It is a difficult balance, and our anxiety or anger often reveals where we fall on the continuum between rescuer and dictator.
That night as I lay in bed, I realized that I could have missed a wonderful opportunity with my baby girl but glad to have come across the book Grace-based Parenting. I thank God for the wealth of parenting resources in books, podcasts, videos, church sermons and online that bless me in navigating this not so easy parenting journey.
God’s Design For WELLthy Parenting means that we do not sit on that wealth of knowledge but use our understanding of it to apply to our everyday parenting journey. My prayer is for us parents to often take an inventory of where we fall on the continuum between rescuer and dictator and ask God to help us model His grace, love and truth to your children. He is the epitome of grace wrapped in truth and love and there is no one more qualified than Him to mentor us where we lack.
Here’s to you WELLthy parents and may God strengthen and encourage you each day because I am learning that God’s Design For WELLthy Parenting is truly not for the faint of heart. Stay focused and intentional not in being perfect but present in your children’s lives!
“Our love grows soft if it is not strengthened by truth, and our truth grows hard if it is not softened by love.” –John Stott