The one important momlife lesson I learned in my mommy journey is to be an intentional mother. I have read some amazing books over the years that changed my parenting ways. Some of those books are “Grace Based Parenting” by Dr. Tim Kimmel, “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother” by Amy Chua, and “Lioness Arising” by Lisa Bevere. Reading these books taught me that parenting is not by chance but by deliberate choices.
My husband and I are in agreement with how we want to raise our children. Our vision for their lives has determined how intentional and strategic we are in raising them. We want to raise whole individuals who are loved and love the Lord, know their purpose in Him, and place their hope in Him.
All of these require my husband and I as individuals to set an example in our faith walk with God. We want to be for them examples of Christ’s followers in all that we say and do. We are intentional in how we love and respect each other as a couple. We want to teach them to trust in God to write their beautiful love story as only Him can.
We are intentional in parenting with God’s grace, love, and truth and in building them up daily with our words and actions. When we mess up, we are quick to apologize and ask for forgiveness. We do not want them to think of us as perfect and we do not want to raise perfect children. We want to equip them in such a way that they give themselves permission to be different, vulnerable, candid, and free to make mistakes.
I honor and welcome my calling as a mother. Training them in the way they should go require me to be intentional in shaping them spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. I do not expect school or church to teach my kids what God has called and equipped me to do. I am learning as a parent not to shy away from my responsibilities. I do my best to equip them with all the tools that they need to become morally strong and spiritually motivated individuals. We are intentional because God our Father is intentional in shaping and molding us into who He wants to become. Why should we do any different?
I love being a mother and I would not trade this journey for nothing. People see our children and compliment us on how well-trained they are. We are truly thankful because we understood a long time ago that marriage and family takes work. That task is not for the faint of heart.
This past weekend, we enjoyed a wonder-filled time at Discovery Museum here in Connecticut because science museums are my girls’ happy place. We BELIEVE in who they want to become. We encourage them to BE who they want to become. We also create opportunities and experiences to LIVE who they want to become! I embrace this quote wholeheartedly to remind us to be intentional in creating opportunities for our children to be and live their purpose driven life!
Believe = BE + LIVE